My personal thoughts for me ~ He controls you. That’s it. Plain and simple. The release of power to Him was your decision and you gave it to Him. By being dishonest you are withholding, you not only create barriers in your relationship but you insult Him in a way a submissive rarely can insult their Dominant. you insult Him by not trusting in the trust you relinquished to Him and by doing this, you convey the message that you do not trust Him and that the release of control to Him was nothing but a lie, a mirage built of falseness.
"If D/s is not honest it's not happening"
I understand that He may not know what i need to know all of the time, but surely if you are in a healthy dynamic with open communication there will be no reluctance to discuss or exclusion. I personally would rather know and talk that through, than fight the shadows or succumb to insecurities, or worse feel that i can't share my thoughts or feelings honestly at the risk of being accused of topping.
"If D/s does not have communication It's not happening"
Beautiful, flame. I'm sure this is a comforting thought to many subs, as well as being reassuring to dominants...and a VERY good point. I believe ANY relationship could be improved by this attitude--unless you're dealing with sociopaths, in which case you should run like hell! :D
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